While shopping this past weekend, I decided to stop an outside cafe for a bite to eat. During lunch, I eavesdropped on two women lamenting about their marriages and men in general.

And boy, they were going off.  It almost seemed like they really didn’t love or even like their men.

However, this conversation was just one of the many conversations that I have heard about men, their overall cluelessness and uselessness in relationships.  It seems that the older some women get, the more cynical some become.    To be clear, I am not talking about men who lie, cheat and harm women.  This is about general complaints and conversations that I have heard about women ‘bashing’ men for generally no ‘real’ reason at all.

Ladies, if you ever participated in those types of conversations, please know the following:

(1)  What you say about your partner / husband is a direct admission of what you think about yourself.

(2)  When you act like a mothering bitch, expect to be alone or with a man who gravitates to the ‘mothering bitch’ type.  A dominant man isn’t looking for a mother, so if you are doing this to ‘test’ your man, stop it.   If you want your husband or partner to act “like a man” then treat him like one.

(3)  Decide what role you want in your relationship.  If you want to play a dominant role, expect to attract a man who is more submissive.  Once you attract a submissive man don’t bash him because he doesn’t act ‘dominant’ enough, this will just emasculate him and exacerbate your problem.  

(4)  If a man can’t give you what you need, move on.  There are plenty of good men that can meet your needs and you can meet theirs.   

(5)  If a man can’t give you everything you want, grow up.  

(6)  Having conversations that generally emasculate him in front of your friends is insulting and if he did that to you, he would never be forgiven.  Plus, this behavior makes you look like a dick.

(7)  Men aren’t perfect …  if you are looking to love a perfect man your relationship is already doomed.  What healthy person would want this type of constant scrutiny?  Any man who wanted constant perfection from a woman would be considered a major ass-hole.  People aren’t perfect and they make mistakes and if those mistakes aren’t to your mental detriment, just let the small stuff go.   

Loving men isn’t that hard ladies, really it isn’t.  My man makes my heart sing and my eyes smile  … and while every day may not always be the best, he is a good person and deserves to be treated like the man he is.

Oh, and you would never catch me bitching about him in an outside cafe.  

Never, as in ever. 

xoxox,
Geisha